This is my little girl, Cindy Elaine Magallanes...a gift from God that I will always be thankful for. She is only four months old here yet she knows how to pose for the camera!
Everyday I thank God that He has entrusted her to me. This tiny angel whose life I must cherish, protect and take care of.
Yes, I am in awe. Whenever I look at Cindy Elaine I wonder, how was she formed inside my womb? God is so wonderful since His hands created my child in the whole nine months that she was inside of me.
From the minutest details of her DNA to her physical appearance, it still surprises me that sometimes I just want to slap myself to realize that this baby is mine, a gift from God!
I consider myself lucky to be granted the chance to be a mother despite the many things that happened in the past. Whenever I look at her, I sometimes shed tears because of extreme joy and gratitude.
Motherhood is really hard but a rewarding calling in life. Not everybody is given this chance so I am one of the lucky few. Every time I look at my baby, I feel blessed already. To wake up beside her is a joy, and to take care of her is happiness, not a chore.
She celebrated her first birthday last June 1, 2010. Looking at her reminds me of so much strength, the will to survive and the simple pleasure of knowing that she will grow up a determined woman.
At the age of one, I can already see her determination overflowing. She is also smart and talented, She already sings and dances! Cindy already knows how to appreciate music.
As a mother, I admire her heart. I can see that she is very caring and giving. Very obedient too! At a young age, she knows how to give and share her toys! She also knows how to charm people around here that everybody calls her Baby Princess!
If I could be so bold, I can also say that she will also grow up to be very beautiful, with all the assets a woman should have! She also knows how to make friends....
Below is my entry more than a year ago that will unfold the story of her birth and how I am thankful to God everyday that she is alive and bringing joy to my life...
Baby Cindy Elaine Magallanes: A Miracle, A Gift, A Test of Resilience and an Eye Opener
One foot is set on the ground, the other on the grave. This was what my mother used to tell me about childbirth. I never realized how serious it was until I myself gave birth to my first born.
On the fateful day of June 1, 2009, I thought that it was just an ordinary day. I went about my usual chores. By 9am, I felt pain in my lower abdomen and back. I dismissed it as simple pain since I have a high tolerance for pain.
It did not end there. Days prior to June 1, I was unusually thirsty and would have irregular contractions. But I told myself it could not be labor pangs since my due date is not until June 21. But I was wondering why I have great amounts of discharges and my enema (manas) already disappeared!
Back to June 1. I told myself I just needed to rest. So I advised my office that I would be absent for the day (my leave was effective on june 7). I called my mother to tell her about the situation so she advised me to go to the hospital at around 1pm.
I told her I will monitor the situation first before I make my trip to my obstetrician-gynecologist.
Around 3pm, the contractions were becoming more intense but I still did not consider it as labor pain. So I went to my neighbor’s house to ask for advise on what to do. Telling her about my pain (in tears) she changed her clothes and accompanied me to the hospital.
IN THE HOSPITAL
Waiting for the doctor to arrive, I was already in intense pain but I still told myself to remain calm. I was still cracking jokes just to ease the tension. Finally the doctor arrived.
Inside her office she checked my cervix if it was dilated. Then the horror of all horrors happened! With obvious worry on her face, she told me that my cervix was already dilated at 2cm and my baby was still in breech position!
“Virginia, kelangan na natin magsagawa nang emergency cesarean operation. Nahawakan ko na yong paa nang anak mo. Delikado na kung maghihintay pa tayo”
OMG! Even Ate Ana was in shock! Then I was rushed to the emergency room to be prepared for the operation. This was around 5:30 in the afternoon.
I did not have any money with me, only 8k which I withdrew a day earlier for the daily budget in the house. But my OBGYNE agreed to be my guarantor because I needed to pay 20k for the room and the operating room.
I called my mother and my whole family was shocked! She was so worried she almost slipped in the bathroom. She had to rush to the mall to book the earliest possible flight to Manila.
Meanwhile, I was rushed to the operating room.
IN THE OPERATING ROOM
The anaesthestologist approached me while the nurses prepared me for the CS operation. Dra. Yao explained the procedure and what after effects to expect after the operation was done. She tried to calm my nerves knowing that I had no relatives with me to support me emotionally.
Inside the operating room, I was made to curl on my side like a furball so that they could administer the anaesthesia on my spine. It was only after the operation that I saw how long the needle was!
The effects of the anaesthesia quickly spread through 3/4th of my body. I was conscious the whole time the operation was being done. A cloth was used to cover my abdomen so I could not see my body being spliced open by the doctors. I was talkative the whole time.
BABY CINDY IN TROUBLE!
Finally, I heard a faint cry. I was excited to see my baby! However, I saw the pediatrician ran to the back of the operating room since baby cindy no longer cried! My mind cried “What the hell was going on? What was wrong with my baby?” while the doctors were stitching my abdomen…Later the pedia confessed that she had to do a mouth to mouth rescuscitation on Cindy to revive her!
I asked for my baby but the kind anaesthestologist told me not to worry. They even photographed her using my cousin’s phone (That time they removed her oxygen so that I will not be depressed)
Nobody told me my baby was fighting for her life in the ICU until the next day!
IN THE RECOVERY ROOM
There are different after effects of anaesthesia on different patients. Some throw up while others shake uncontrollably.
I shook for one hour, and I thought I was in North pole!
I asked for water since I was so thirsty, but I was told I cannot eat or drink anything for the next 72hours!
IN MY PRIVATE ROOM
I was moved to my room, complete with dextrose and everything. My relatives were already there (with eyes that told me something was wrong but nobody was talking) Ven tried to cheer me up, the rest tried to ensure me that my baby was ok. Then, groggy from all the commotion I fell asleep.
RAW INTEL
The next day I was anxious for my mother to arrive. I called her on the phone and when she answered I noticed that she was crying. I asked her what was wrong. She told me to remain strong and to accept fate, if baby Cindy was not meant for me I have to accept it. With a stabbing pain in my heart, I asked her what made her say those things.
She said that my cousin told her my baby weighed only 3.1lbs, was a blue baby and was in an incubator! Everybody (including my dad, sisters and the maid cried back home).
I said mom, I don’t think that is the case. I felt in my heart that the condition of my baby was not that serious! But I cried!!!
Finally my doctor arrived. I asked her if it was true about my baby being only 3.1lbs, in an incubator. She said “What?! Who told you that? Your baby weighs 3.3kilos which is 7.3lbs! No, she is not in an incubator but she is on oxygen since she has hard time breathing!”
Instead of getting angry at my cousin who gave us the wrong info, I laughed it off and said what a relief!
CINDY IN TROUBLE, AGAIN
My mother finally arrived and I told her she and the whole family was misinformed. She tried to hold back her tears but I pacified her saying that God will not abandon us.
Later that night the pedia visited us and told us that Cindy was under observation for possible pneumonia or immature lungs. She mentioned one more possibility in medical terms that I did not even understand.
My heart was crushed, and as much as I held back my tears it just fell like rain on my cheeks. My mind went blank for a while.
I felt so helpless, I can’t even see my daughter since I myself required medical attention. I wanted to help her. Kung pwede nga saluhin ko na lahat nang sakit niya ginawa ko na.
However, I live with the hope that like me, Cindy is a fighter and a survivor. She is a gift from God and I was optimistic that He will help my little angel…
My heart was in pain since I cannot contact my husband…I was asking questions like what is wrong with him? I told him to do this and that in preparation for my pregnancy and delivery but he did not listen..if only…he did not even know I already gave birth…where the heck was he?!
Perhaps he is still out in the pacific ocean, with no signal…pero hindi eh me satellite naman ah?
My mother was so upset with my in-laws she had to answer the phone and give her say on certain matters I would rather not write about. Emotions were high. Even I, who was so tolerant and patient lost my cool with my mother-in-law. Hamakin mo, buhay ko ang itinaya ko at nang anak ko.
SEEING CINDY FOR THE FIRST TIME
The specialist told me that they decreased the oxygen from 2.5 to .5 being administered on Cindy and that I can start breastfeeding her.
Seeing her in the ICU, still with dextrose, antibiotics and oxygen I cannot help but cry…how could this tiny life which was in my womb for nine months endure so much pain early in her life? I followed everything, I went to my check up religiously, drank my vitamins, milk, did my exercises but still her she is, fighting to live? Why?
Even if my operation was still painful, I went down to the nursery every four hours or so to breastfeed to her. During those moments when I held her in my arms, my protectiveness overtook me.
I promised myself that I will see to it that these situation will not happen again. Kahit magkabastusan na, wala na akong sasantuhin. My daughter comes first.
CRYING MY HEART OUT
My mother told me to remain strong and to refrain from crying dahil nakakabinat daw. So, when I thought she was soundly asleep, I cried my heart out only to find out that my mother was watching me…she approached me and tried to console me.
I poured out my heartaches, told her things she did not know existed in my heart, feelings of hatred and disappointment towards some persons for repeatedly and shamelessly lying to me over and over again. A wolf in sheep’s clothing, a devil in disguise…I told her everything dahil di ko na kaya itago ang hinanakit sa heart ko.
I TOLD HER CHANGES WILL START HAPPENING, AND I DON’T CARE KUNG SINO ANG MASASAGASAAN. BASTUSAN NA KUNG BASTUSAN.
GOING OUT OF THE HOSPITAL
I was discharged first because the money we have was not enough to get baby Cindy out for the meantime. Even if the rain was pouring down and my wound still fresh, I went to the back to withdraw the money my father loaned to me so I can get Cindy out.
Sometimes I wonder, it is always my dad who rescues me from all these financial problems everytime my husband is out to sea. I wonder, what if my dad needs the money for some other emergency, where would I ran to if problems arise? Definitely, my in-laws cannot help me in this aspect (nagdemand nga nang $300 na allotment tapos hihingi ako nang financial help? Heller virgie asa kapa!)
Saturday, we were able to get Cindy out of the hospital. Visitors started to come to the house to see her. Almost everyday me bisita si Cindy…
ME, IN TROUBLE THIS TIME
I had the shock of my life when my operation opened up and yellow green discharges came oozing out. In short na infect yong sugat ko. Kala ko talaga bubuka yong tahi at lalabas yong mga lamang loob ko!!!Talk about trauma!
Buti na lang the girlfriends of my cousins, one is a nurse and the other had hospital work experience calmed me down. My mother, carrying Cindy was in shock! I was shaking from fear so I called my doctor so she gave me instructions and pacified me.
My two cousins went to the drugstore to buy gauze, tape, antibiotics, betadine and cream. My mother squeezed all the discharges out from the hole of the operation.
One of the gf’s cleaned the wound, put the betadine and the gauze. After which my mom made me wear my binder.
Now, I am recuperating and the wound is slowly closing up on its own. Di kasi pwede i re suture.
FINAL NOTE
My heartfelt thanks to my mother, who tirelessly helped me overcome this ordeal. She is my bestfriend, business manager, nurse, grammie to Cindy, adviser and my strong foundation. She endured the stress, the sleepless nights taking care of the big baby (me) and the small baby, looking for money, buying stuff for the house, cleaning me up and carrying me when I needed someone to assist me to get up from the bed. I love you ma, thank you so much….
To my nextdoor neighbor Nang Ana, whose persistence and strength helped me get through the operation while my mother was still in the province. Thank you for bringing me to the hospital, for taking care of my things, making the deposit and staying in the hospital as long as she could. Salamat gid nang…
To my housekeeper Pato who tirelessly went back and forth to get things from the house, prepare the food, go to the pharmacy and feed me when I was yet unable to do so on my own. Thanks gid To….
To my cousins and their girlfriends for buying things for the baby and taking care of me when my wound was infected. Thank you…
To the nurses at the ICU for taking good care of baby Cindy, salamat
To the doctors who saved our lives and took every measure to make sure we were in good shape, thank you so much, especially to Dra. Ferrer who revived baby Cindy…
To the well wishers, relatives and friends salamat! I love you guys!
MOst of all, to Almighty God whose love, patience and all-encompassing wisdom shielded me from despair, helplessness and helped baby Cindy when she needed Your help the most, my most humble gratitude to You my Father, my Creator, and my God…to You belong all the glory.
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